A Recommendation for forgiveness

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A Prayer of Thanksgiving

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Paul who was in prison in Rome at this time, had Timothy and a run away slave named Onesimus, with him. The letter is addressed primarily to Philemon, but also mentioned are Apphia, Philemon's Christian wife, and Archippus, believed to have been their son. Some students of the early history of the church believe that Archippus was actually the owner of Onesimus and that Philemon was the minister there. Others believe as we do that Archippus was the minister of the church at Colossae and that sense the church met at the home of Philemon, he stayed there. You may choose for yourself as you search for the "truth".

Notice Paul calls Philemon his "beloved fellow worker" and Archippus, "his fellow soldier". In times passed, Paul had used both of these terms to describe fellow ministers.

Paul ends this preface by wishing for the church at Colossae the best of God's blessings, Grace and Peace. Grace sufficient for their sins and Peace beyond understanding, provided by faith. Thus Paul begins his letter to Philemon.

Paul immediately starts his plea for Onesimus by phrasing Philemon for what he had heard about the church at Colosse and giving God all the credit. Paul heard, from time to time, from many sources, of the good that was being accomplished in the various churches that he had been instrumental in starting. He was always thrilled, encouraged and not without some pride yet he always gave God the glory and thanks.

Notice what Paul had heard about Philemon and was thanking God for. Onesimus had told Paul of the love that Philemon had for the Lord and it would seem that Paul had heard, from another source, of Philemon's faith in Christ. Love and faith are prime Christian Graces. They are the "trademark" and the "prime witness" of the Christian. Paul said of the Roman Christians in Rom. 1:8, "I thank God because your faith is published (talked about) throughout the world." Spread, as it was, by word of mouth.

Also, Paul gives thanks because Onesimus had told him of Philemon's love for all the saints (believers). The two, love of Christ and love of the brethren, must go together. Paul says, "He who loves Him who begets, must and will love them who are begotten."

In the first part of this letter, Paul is using a little psychology in talking about all the good things that he had heard about Philemon and who (Onesimus) had been his source of information. Onesimus, a run away slave belonging to Philemon, one who might very well have disliked Philemon, but one who, because of the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, spoke only good about his master.

Philemon's expressions and demonstrations of his love and faith had done much to heal and sustain the Saints around Colosse. Paul expresses it this way, "The bowels of the Saints are refreshed by you." He was referring to the inner feelings and needs that we all have that need to be sustained by love and an occasional word from a caring person. Such a person was Philemon. Having thus told Philemon of the presence of Onesimus with him and the good report that he had given him, he begins his appeal.

The Petition of Paul for Onesimus

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After reading this, I'm sure that you must have asked yourself as I did myself, "Have you ever read a more loving appeal from a man to whom humility did not come easy?" In these verses, Paul gets down to the purpose of the letter, a plea to Philemon on the behalf of Onesimus, that he might be forgiven and received back into his household. Notice, Paul does not ask that Onesimus be given his freedom, only that he be welcomed back, forgiven and allowed to live, for run away slaves, in those days, were killed when they were apprehended.

Paul gives no less than 14 arguments why Philemon should do this. Lets look briefly at each of these.

  1. "Because you have shown so much love and compassion for the people of Colossae, let me now see that same love and compassion shown toward Onesimus." Paul was asking Philemon to forgive and receive Onesimus for he was now one of the "brethren in Christ", indeed he was now one of those Saints that Philemon loved. Matthew Henry comments on this first argument, "Observe a disposition to do good, together with past instances and expressions of it, is a good handle to take hold of for pressing for more." The lesson is still here for us, do not be weary of doing good, as you are able and as new occasions present themselves. We do get tired sometimes, don't we?
  2. "Because of the Apostles power given to them by Christ over the ministers." "I am bold enough, in Christ, to command you to do this."
  3. "Because I could command you to do this but for loves sake, I prefer to appeal to you." In John 20:23, Christ said to his Disciples, "If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven." "If you retain the sins of any, they are retained." From this, the Apostles assumed power over the church. Therefore, Paul felt that he had the power to command Philemon to forgive Onesimus but for loves sake, he preferred to appeal to him.
  4. "Because I, Paul, have a certain position in the church." "I appeal to you... an old man, an Ambassador for Christ, a prisoner for Christ, I appeal to you to hear what I have to say." Age, in those days, demanded respect. Matthew Henry says that Paul was saying to Philemon, "If you would feel like doing something for an old prisoner, to comfort me in my bonds and make my chains lighter, grant me this wish."
  5. "Because Onesimus has become like a child to me and I like a father to him." Even though, in a legal sense, he was still Philemon's slave, in a spiritual sense, he had become like a son to Paul and Paul believed that this was of God. He believed and he wanted Philemon to believe that God had led Onesimus to him and that God had used Paul to lead him to Christ. Matthew Henry says, "God will honor and comfort His suffering servants, improving their own graces and making them a means of spiritual good for others.
  6. "Because he, Onesimus, has changed." "Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to me and to you." It would appear that Onesimus never was a very good servant, may even have been a troublemaker. Perhaps Philemon was glad to get rid of him. But now, Paul says, sense he had become a Christian, he has changed. He now is very useful, is dedicated to his work, weather for the Lord or for others. The slaves name literally prophesied his ultimate state. The name Onesimus means, "useful" or "beneficial". He had certainly become this to Paul.

    We must stop here see what Paul is not doing. He is not making light of the sins of Onesimus. He had wronged his master. He had lived a life that was not his. He had taken what ever he could to meet his needs. He had run away from the one who had owned him. Paul was not upholding him in these sins. But Onesimus had asked and received God's forgiveness and Paul could do no less and Paul felt that Philemon could also do no less.

  7. "Because Paul, in sending Onesimus back, was sending his very own heart." Paul was saying, "I love him as I live myself." This was not easy for Paul, nor did it come natural. Age had mellowed Paul and Grace had allowed him to lay his heart on the line, making himself vulnerable to being hurt. Why? Because Philemon was a Phrygian. Colossae was in Phrygia and the Phrygians were known for their rough nature and difficult tempers. Only the Grace of God could make them "slow to anger" ready to forgive and abundant in pardon.
  8. This argument takes the form of a personal decision that Paul had to make concerning Onesimus. "I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me, on your behalf, during my imprisonment for the Gospel, but I preferred to do nothing without your consent." Paul considered the service that Onesimus was doing for him, to be done on the behalf of his owner. It is difficult for us to relate to slavery, but if I had a saw and you found it and used it without telling me that you had found it, every time you used it, you would think of me and perhaps, under your breath, thank me for it. Would that justify your keeping my saw without my knowledge? No. No, you would need to do as Paul did and tell me that you had found my saw, was using it and it was better than it was when you found it because you had "sharpened" it. Then if I allowed you to continue to use it, it would be my decision and you would be free of any guilt that you might have, and I would have the joy of lending you a saw that served you well. Paul knew that any form of deception, destroyed the joy of life.
  9. This argument attempts to justify Onesimus' running away. "Perhaps there was some divine reason for Onesimus running away." "Perhaps his meeting up with me and his subsequent salvation, was why he parted from you for a while." Paul is suggesting that this might have been the way God choose to save Onesimus. This has improved the personality of Onesimus, before, Philemon only had a disgruntled and disobedient slave, now, by the Grace of God, he has a fellow believer in Christ, who will love, serve and be obedient forever. Which would you rather have? Can we see here another "prodigal son"? Matthew Henry cautions us here, we must not condone sin as a means for salvation and a way to achieve forgiveness.
  10. This argument stresses the change that has come about in Onesimus sense his conversion. He suggests that he is no longer just a slave, but rather a fellow believer and a brother in Christ. He is now one who would now seek to work for those things that would bless the family of Philemon as well as sustain the church that was in his (Philemon's) house. There is a spiritual brotherhood between all believers. This brotherhood does not do away with any social or civil rank or station. Rather, it strengthens the obligation of each to discharge their civil duties with love and charity. While Onesimus was serving Paul, he was more than a servant, he was a beloved brother.
  11. This argument may have put Philemon on the spot. Paul entreats him, "Receive Onesimus as you would me." Paul must have been very sure of Philemon's love for him, especially at this time in his life when many of his followers were leaving him. Many false teachers had come into the churches and were organizing a campaign against Paul. Paul could not have really known how Philemon felt about him at this time, but he relied on the sustaining power of the Grace of God. Matthew Henry paraphrases what Paul was asking Philemon to do, "Now show your love to me and interest and love that I have for you by loving and receiving one who is near and dear to me, one whom I love even as I love my self, own and treat him as you would me." Let us not forget that Onesimus was a run away slave and such people were normally killed when they were found.
  12. In this argument, Paul speaks of restitution. He realizes that Onesimus owes his master. Here, Paul makes a suggestion. "Whatever he owes you, I will repay, but remember, you owe me something." One of the characteristics of a penitent heart is the confession of past failures and sins. Onesimus must have done this to Paul. Notice, he makes this promise legal by making it in his own handwriting. Paul knew that the conversion of Onesimus did not do away with any obligations that he had incurred prior to his conversion. He was still Philemon's slave and he was still responsible for the wrong that he had done. In Paul's day, responsibility could be assumed by some one else. This practice was best illustrated by Christ. In Heb.7:22, the author writes, "He, (Christ) was made sin for us, though He, Himself, knew no sin, that we, who know sin, might be made righteous before God." Paul was saying to Philemon, I will be responsible for Onesimus. This was quite a responsibility that Paul was assuming when you consider that this crime was punishable by death. How could Paul has assumed this responsibility? He had no money. He was a Roman prisoner. But it would seem that Philemon owed him something. Paul had been the instrument in God's hands for all the spiritual good that had come to Philemon. If he had enjoyed any of God's Grace, it was because of Paul's ministry.
  13. Paul, in this argument, suggests there is "dividends" in forgiveness. It brings joy and Paul wanted Philemon to have that joy. As a brother in Christ, Paul urged Philemon to forgive Onesimus and this in turn would bring much joy to Paul at a time when it seemed that all had forsaken him and it would also bring much joy to Philemon. Paul is asking for evidence of the Christian love that he had heard that Philemon possessed. "Fruits of Faith", Paul calls this elsewhere. "I am confident of your obedience, I write to you knowing that you will do even more than I ask." The expectations of others, motivate us more than any thing else. Paul knew Philemon to be a kind and loving person and he was persuaded that he would do what was right toward Onesimus. Paul only spoke well of two groups of people. The Bereans, who searched the scriptures and the Macedonians who first gave themselves to the Lord, then to Apostles, then to the doing of good works as opportunities presented themselves. Paul believes this Macedonian would respond in forgiveness when the opportunity was presented.

THUS, PAUL RESTED HIS CASE.

The Promise of Paul to Philemon

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Notice here that Paul had not lost hope for his situation. He hoped that through the prayers of the Saints at Colossae that he would be released and that he might be permitted to visit them. So confident is he that he asks Philemon to prepare a guest room for him. Paul knew, for sure, two things in his life. The Power of Prayer and the will of God. He knew that the first depended on the second. He lived in total trust believing that prayer accomplished much when it was in the will of God. He was prepared to go to Colossae to be with Philemon or to go home to be with the Lord, whatever was God's will.

The Conclusion

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Paul closes with greetings to Philemon from those who were with him. This was, in a way, Paul's last plea on the part of Onesimus. He was telling Philemon that he had 5 honorable and trust worthy men with him, servants of God, who had witnessed the letter and his plea for a slave, one who had become like a son to him.

There was Epaphas, here called "my fellow prisoner in Christ. In Colossians Paul highly commends this man to the people at Colossae where many knew of his works.

Then there was Mark, cousin to Barnabas, who later became a great Evangelist, and Aristarchus, who traveled with and was so faithful to Mark.

Then there was Demas who later left Paul as we were told in Second Timothy, for the "love of this present world", but who, at this time and earlier, was very active in the Lord's work.

Lastly, there was Luke, the beloved physician, who was associated with Paul on so many journeys.

Five men of some note who bore witness to Paul's plea and the conversion and work of Onesimus in the service of Paul.

Paul closes with this benediction, "The Grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit." Notice it was God's Grace that Paul prayed for, for Philemon and for the people of Colossae. God's unmerited favor. I like the way Matthew Henry describes the action of God's Grace, "We were lost, He recovered us, He repaired us, He saved us, He provided pardon for us and by His power, He rescued us from sin, Satan and Hell." "He then renewed us in His likeness and brought us into the fellowship of God." "We deserved none of this, but by Hid Grace, He purchased it for us thru Jesus Christ, His Son." That's the action of God's Grace.

Paul ends his letter here, but I was left wondering how it ended between Onesimus and Philemon. What do you think happened? Tradition says that Paul played one more card. He sent this letter back to Philemon by Onesimus and he sent with him, Tychicus as an intercessor. They both returned to Colossae and Philemon not only forgave Onesimus, but he also granted him his freedom.

A HAPPY ENDING TO THE BOOK OF PHILEMON


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